These so-called flexisexuals say that although they are not gay or even bisexual, they enjoy flirting and kissing girls -- but they still enjoy having sex with men. One female senior at Hofstra University in New York said she is apt to turn to women when she's had too much to drink. The student, who declined to give her name for fear a future employer might Google her sexual escapades, is one of many young women who are more flexible in their attitudes about sex. Experts say they may be influenced by the growing visibility of same-sex couples and more open attitudes about sex in general.
Studies Say Women are More Fluid in Their Sexuality
No one ever forgets the thrilling, nerve-racking, butterfly-inducing feeling of a first kiss. Some were in the process of exploring their sexuality, some had already figured it out, and some were just goofing around — all scenarios that are totally normal. From playing house as kids to dance floor make-outs to spin-the-bottle dares, these stories are too cute. It was a day or two after our first date, and we had gone to hang out in her room. It was pretty apparent that we were both interested in the other person. She asked if she could kiss me, and obviously I said yes. We kissed for a couple seconds but broke apart right before her roommate's entire family walked in. That kiss was a major landmark in exploring my sexuality — it was a confirmation that this was right for me. I realized that I enjoyed it so much more than I had enjoyed kissing a guy. I identify as a lesbian now and have been in a relationship with that girl since August!
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A friend and I are in a club when she sees two girls making out on the dance floor. Just wanna attract attention. So when I chance upon a few photos of Luna Lim on Instagram that show her making out with other girls in clubs, I reach out to the year-old. Even so, many girls understand that this behaviour attracts male attention, whether they intend to or not. The making out has no emotional connection and no sense of partnership or desire. However, she only kisses other girls depending on who the other party is. To her, this can extend to both romantic and platonic love. This echoes the aforementioned article by The Conversation, in which a woman addresses concerns of being labelled a whore if she behaved the same way around men.
Jamie Budnick does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment. In one sense, this reflects real life. Many young women who identify as straight have had sexual or romantic experiences with other women. Research on sexual fluidity, hooking up and straight girls kissing has mainly focused on women living on college campuses : privileged, affluent, white women. But studies have found that same-gender sexual experiences between straight women are common across all socioeconomic backgrounds. This means existing studies have been ignoring a lot of women.