I maintain my own life and embrace my SO with open arms when I do see him, which comes to about once a week usually dinner after 8: I get up with him at 4 A. Salaries for doctors are declining, with my boyfriend telling me that some nurses now make more than the lowest paid medical specialty - pediatrics. That contributes to status in her culture. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values. He left his practice of many years and started a new one this week. Anybody dating him is going to need to understand that, and that it has to come first. My family says I should leave him…. It's hard right now because he's on a general surgery rotation so his hours suck and I never see him. We're generally very happy when we're together, but like everyone else, it isn't always easy to find the time between his schedule and mine.